During one of my many late night City conversations over Halal I mention to my best friend I wanted to date. The topic sprouted in my head hours prior while I was kayaking. I was unable to stay present and focus on how beautiful a day it was to go kayaking. All I could think about was how kayaking would make a great date aka I wish someone was thoughtful enough to take me on a “unconventional” date”.
The thing is I don’t really want to “date” someone. I don’t want a boyfriend (although I am not opposed to that happening).
As I reflect on those statements I realize that I have contributed my joy and happiness to men, and I began to meditate on events and experiences that have a special place in my heart.
There was Junkanoo with my boyfriend.
Traveling to the Bahamas to visit my boyfriend.
Spoken word dates.
Finding and losing myself.
A majority of the wonderful moments I have experienced thus far in my twenty-two years on earth involve men. It’s not that I’m against having memorable experiences with the men who enter my life, but the list of happiness with myself doesn’t compare.
Yes, I’m a sucker for love. I’m a sucker for any man that knows exactly what I need and want, without me ever having to speak a word. BUT, I DO NOT NEED nor WANT a man or anyone else to make me happy. I love interacting with people and sharing priceless, breathtaking moments with them, but I do not need any one else to allow me to see the beauty within and around me.
This is why I am dating myself*.
I’m going to go on dinner dates, and treat myself to a steak and glass of wine I can’t afford. I’m going to go to movies in the Park solodolo. You can find me sitting in a dark corner of a lounge crying over heart-touching spoken word. I’m going to do everything my heart desires.
I’m going to fall in love with myself.
If you are unsure of how to date yourself follow these simple steps:
1. Begin by making a list of everything you want to do (i.e. your bucket list).
2. Schedule your dates (I try to do at least one thing on my list a week if time permits).
3. Get-cho-sexay-on. Throw on some lipstick, some heels, whatever makes you feel sexy.
4. Spoil yourself at least once a month (a shopping spree, dinner, anything your heart desires as long as it’s in your budget) you deserve it.
5. Be honest with who you are in life, where you are in life, and most importantly know that where you’re going is better than we’re you’re at today.
*I will be sharing #datingmyself photos on Instagram. If you decide to date yourself please hashtag your photos so I can see the awesome dates you go on!
If you’re in Tucson you need to go to Mt. Calvary & listen to @labryantfriend speak!
Amen amen amen.
Goofing around on set with @thecreoleking
#mbfwswim @mbfashionweek #hireus
I’ve missed talking to all of you.
As you may already know I’m here in New York until I leave for graduate school, in Paris, January 2015.
Yes, I am alive and absolutely loving all that New York has to offer. I’m so excited about the projects I have been working on out here!
I wanted to let all of you know that I will be competing in my first fitness competition on November 8th in Rhode Island. I’m so excited about this competition, especially because it combines two of my favorite things: fitness and fashion.
After look at all the different federations I decided to go with the World Beauty Fitness and Fashion Inc. I selected this particular federation because it fits MY needs. My biggest concern was not looking like a bodybuilder. To me, the WBFF is the epitome of feminism as it concerns fitness.
Things that stood out to me about the WBFF were of course the fashion aspect, and their mission to help each competitor achieve his or her marketing goals in the fitness industry. For the division I’m entering—Diva Fitness Model (isn’t that such a suiting name)—there are two sections: bikini and themewear. I was sold after reading there was a themewear round because that means I get to design a costume! *BRAINSTORMS*
Sidenote: Remember when I was King Michael?
For the next seventeen weeks I’m going to be documenting everything from how I have to eat and the creation of my costume (I will be doing a majority of the updates on my Instagram). I also will be writing about important topics to me and how they pertain to this show: The lack of colored women, standards of beauty, etc.
Would you like video as well? Let me know!
I just can’t get enough of @balmainparis Fall/Winter 2014/2015
You can check out the article I wrote a few months back on:tamarapridgett.com “This campaign both reflects today’s realties and the possibilities of the fashion world.”- @olivier_rousteing
#diversity #fashion #balmain #balmaniac #diversitycoalition #parisianfashion #paris #hautecouture
"I want to see me how you see me. I want to see me how I see myself." #mywords #honesty #truth #revelation #selfportrait #vscocam #afro #fro #carolsdaughter #curly #curlycollective #luvyourmane
Day 6: Sunday fun day intermission.
Are you breathing?
#menswear #vscocam #tucson #barrioviejo